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transition

Warning! Unknown territory ahead!

How to get back on the driver’s seat when change takes you off course. My twin daughters are high school juniors. Our family of four is dancing -- or should I say spinning -- to the tune of change these days. Not that change is new to us. These girls have been changing our lives since they took their first breath and even before that. And you know what? I wouldn't have it any other way. The day I had my first ultrasound the doctor pointed to the screen and said, “Here’s one head and . . . here’s the second. Congratulations! You’re having twins!”  My husband jumped up. He couldn’t contain...
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Off To College Already? How’s That Possible?

Parenting is a two-way street. It's not only my girls I'm parenting. I have some learning and growing up to do too. Five airports, three hotels, thousands of miles, two car rentals, five college tours later, we got back home at 1am on Saturday morning. I was tired and sleepwalked through the day. Neal and I went to N.Haven to return the rental car and took the opportunity to go and sit at our favorite Mexican restaurant. Yes, there were margueritas involved. We needed this down time but, of course, we still got to talking about . . . well, the girls and colleges. The thing about ha...
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Dare to Dream: Endings and New Beginnings

There is a stream that cuts across our back yard. Yesterday, it seemed completely frozen. Yet, as I looked at it up close I realized that, right under the ice, there was this faint vein of water moving. There is life at the bottom of this stream. There are frogs, fish, and all kinds of creatures snug in the mud, waiting and preparing for the thaw. Spring is coming and when the temperatures are right and the environment hospitable, they'll find their way to the surface and they'll begin yet another cycle. We too are creatures of nature. We live our life in cycles; endings and new beginnings...
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In Between . . .

    Yesterday was a beautiful summer day; the kind of day that makes me wish that summer was everlasting. A far cry from the terrible, hot, humid, no good, record-hot days we've had so far. The sky was a brilliant, clear blue, the temperature was in the mid-eighties. It was a beautiful, lazy, summer day; the kind of day that makes you wish you were laying on a hammock, under the pine trees by the stream, listening to the buzzards, and gently drifting away. Yet, as I look towards the deck, I see leaves falling. There is already a thin layer of them covering it. The maples th...
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Spring Forward

On Wednesday, March 20 at 7:09 am EST, Spring, the season of pushing through and birthing what's new in our lives, made her entrance! It's difficult to tell where I live. There is still snow on the ground although it's melting fast. The weather report is warning us of yet another snow storm coming on Monday. It works like this, as one season gives way to the next; dancing the tango . . . two steps forward, one step backwards, and so we go round the seasons. Saturday morning, I made my usual rounds to the recycling center, post office, dropping the girls to their various activities and...
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Winds of change – On pillows and such

She must have been in her late seventies. I noticed her as I walked by, looking for a new pillow for a wicker chair I have in my office. She was being helped by a young woman and they were discussing pillows. She was trying to choose new ones for her couch. I soon found what I wanted and headed to another part of the store, then to the register to check out. The older woman was already there, completing her purchase of two pillows. As she was getting ready to leave, she turned to me and the young woman at the register and said . . . "I needed some color - a change. I've lived with th...
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What does chocolate have to do with it?

Here I am . . . at my favorite cafe and writing spot; a cup of hot coffee and a morning glory muffin next to me. It's raining pretty heavily, puddles of water already forming on the sidewalk. There's the steady hum of the fans above, the chatter of a handful of people ordering coffee and joking with the owner, light jazz coming through the speakers. On my way here, I drove by the post office to mail a letter and decided to circle back by the Middle School, on my way to Washington. The school is in session and the streets were quiet. I drove by slowly, looking at the school when, suddenl...
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It’s a new beginning!

Here we are . . . well into April. For those of us in the North East, the cold still lingers but the daffodils are blooming and the days are getting longer.  The skies are blue and sunny, more often than not. It's taking me longer to get going this year. My motivation feels sluggish . . . it's been a dark, cold winter. My attention has been pulled in a myriad of directions and I can't say I enjoyed them all. Some distractions can be more painful than others. I know, from experience, that I can't wait for my energy to pick up all by itself. Often, the more I do . . . the more energy I get. I...
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Running in place – getting nowhere fast

Recently, I had the opportunity to speak with two entrepreneurs. They've both been dealing with major career and life transition for some time now. One was let go due to downsizing, about a year ago. The other chose to leave the organization he worked for, after many years of service. They are both highly skillful, experienced and knowledgeable. Along the way, they both decided to go to business for themselves. They chose to start businessses right along the lines of what they had always done. Gradually, the challenge of playing multiple roles within their young businesses, began to take a ...
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Change happens! Now what?

"Change is as inevitable as rain in the spring. Some of us just put on our raincoats and splash forward." ~ Amy Bloom Being willing to go with change, as it happens, is not always easy but it’s fundamental to our growth. Change gives us the opportunity to evaluate our ways, make adjustments, and discover new possibilities. Whether change happened by choice or not, whether we view it as positive or negative, there is a rhythm to it. It's a process. Going through transition tests our comfort level with uncertainty. As the old gives way to the new, we enter the “I don’t know” land. Ther...
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