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Being Authentically You!

How to get past self-doubt and know that you're enough. “Come to think,” he said,” I’m not sure what success looks like. And, the truth is, even if I got what I say I want, I still wouldn’t feel successful.” "Mark" and I -- OK, his name isn’t Mark but the dialogue is true and I do like that name -- have known each other for a long time. His words that day weren’t a surprise. It was the way he looked at me that was different. He was opening the door to a conversation about something he’s always been sensitive about. “What’s going on?” I asked. “Well,” he replied, “I’ve been working with...
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The pursuit of happiness

Making the choices that serve our life's priorities, goals, and values is not always easy or straightforward. We are constantly influenced by our peers, the conflicting messages in our heads, other people's expectations, the media, you name it. Caught as we are in the hamster wheel of everyday life, we keep going without taking the time to reevaluate our direction. We live in a society that's obsessed with the "personality" paradigm. There is a prevailing attitude of endless competition. People's sense of success is often based on the bottom line of their bank accounts, on how big a house the...
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Life balance! A myth or a choice?

Life doesn’t present us with a clear, unobstructed road. On our way, we get potholes, roadblocks, and mudslides. Here and there, our lives spin out of control. We worry about our jobs. Our businesses falter. Our children seem to have grown up overnight and we are not the center of their world anymore. Our parents age and their health fails. We fall out of love. We're stressed . . . a thousand thoughts racing through our mind . . . no time left for us and us alone. Life is complicated. We can't possibly divide our lives into neatly separated territories. "Is life balance a myth?" we wonder. "A...
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Saying no and meaning it!

I never thought I had a problem saying no until I had kids. Somewhere along the way, I realized that my kids were born to not take no for an answer. It looked familiar . . . did they get that one from me? Nah!! It must have been a long lost relative or something. Now, one could argue that not taking no for an answer is a good thing. I'm sure this quality of theirs will come handy one day. After all, it's one of the keys to success. Yes, and . . . knowing when to take no for an answer is a sign of wisdom and respect. Perseverance and stubbornness are two sides of the same coin. One is good, th...
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Tribal thinking

Sports is not one of my passions. I leave that to my husband, a die hard Yankees and Celtics fan. A man of eclectic taste who makes no apologies. I find baseball too slow, basketball too fast and tennis just right! I managed to resist paying attention to all the hoopla about LeBron James. Not interested! Until Dan Gilbert's petty letter started circulating the web that is. I caught a glimpse of a couple of paragraphs and that's when I tuned in. There are many aspects of this that rub me the wrong way but then again, what's new? Then, there is the story about Nirupama Pathak, a 22 year old I...
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Shock Value

I came across a blog the other day. It's a marketing blog. 24,000 thousand readers are following this blog. Impressive? I say so! I read through a few entries. The author has definitely a lot to offer, she's generous and funny and straight forward. What struck me though was the language. Vulgar? Yes! One reads through it and feels an intimate connection with the author. You can easily imagine talking to a good friend who's sharing her frustration over a cup of coffee. I guess it works because - did I mention? There are 24,000 readers following this blog! Am I the only one thinking that manne...
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Cultivating self-respect!

During my Daily Habits teleclass today, I had the chance to observe, once again, wisdom in action. People shared the challenges and dilemmas they face when it comes to self-care. They jumped in to support one another and in doing so, they proved how wise, knowing, willing and generous they are  . . . when it comes to others. It's not that we don't know how to exercise self-care, we just don't do it. Somewhere along the way, pushing our needs in the back burner, became a life forming habit! It got me thinking about respect. What does it mean to have respect for someone or something? What ...
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Recharging the Battery

We are conditioned to think that when the going gets tough the tough gets going. In today's business environment, people are asked to do more with less. That means longer work hours, less pay, less time off; overall we are in survival mode. What else can we do? People are losing their jobs, the well is running dry, and the forecast is bleak. How do we go about maintaining our stamina while juggling our lives and not losing ourselves in the process? Numerous studies suggest that long working hours, the inability to do what one loves and enjoys, and not honoring our personal priorities can lea...
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Your Life Matters: Take a Stance!

As I read through the newspaper today, I came to the realization, once again, of how fear and anxiety are gripping our world. Why not after all? Our economy is flanking; the education system is letting our children down; there is war going on; the health care system is inadequate. . . do I need to go on? What can we do? How do we turn the tide? Some go into denial and others try to find a way to make a difference. All we can do is hope that with a clear intention and hard work we may affect change. We owe it to those who come after us to try to make this world a better place. Since we all h...
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