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Being Authentically You!

How to get past self-doubt and know that you're enough. “Come to think,” he said,” I’m not sure what success looks like. And, the truth is, even if I got what I say I want, I still wouldn’t feel successful.” "Mark" and I -- OK, his name isn’t Mark but the dialogue is true and I do like that name -- have known each other for a long time. His words that day weren’t a surprise. It was the way he looked at me that was different. He was opening the door to a conversation about something he’s always been sensitive about. “What’s going on?” I asked. “Well,” he replied, “I’ve been working with...
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Workaholic no more: 7 steps to transformation

I joined the work force upon graduating from high school, worked my way through college and kept going. There are many reasons why I love to work. Not only am I able to support myself - which is extremely important for my self-respect - but I'm also able to channel much of my creativity, knowledge and passion into a specific direction. Time went on and life gave me plenty of opportunities to adjust my perspective. I found out that, loving work, can also lead to identifying with it so much that it's easy to loose sight of what really matters in life. Work can become an excuse for not being fu...
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Work is what we do not who we are

Years ago, while at a networking event, I met these two guys who were account executives for MCI, a phone company of the past. We were introduced during the meet-and-greet session and they asked what I was doing. They were curious. Back then being a life coach was still new. They were both married and had young children. They asked many questions and at some point we got talking about being available to our clients. I told them that I kept a clear boundary between family and work time. After all, my corporate days were fresh in my mind and I wasn't going to repeat the same mistake. Their res...
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The courage to be happy

Throughout my life, I’ve been blessed with great mentors; people who inspired me and challenged me to be who I am today. Asimenia was one of my high school teachers. She taught Greek literature and philosophy. She embodied everything a teacher and mentor should be. She was strong and inspiring and I adored her. During one of the most vulnerable times in my life, she saw something in me I couldn’t see. She took me under her wing, became my mentor and showed me what strength of spirit looked like. She continued being there for me even after I graduated from high school. During one of o...
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Saying no and meaning it!

I never thought I had a problem saying no until I had kids. Somewhere along the way, I realized that my kids were born to not take no for an answer. It looked familiar . . . did they get that one from me? Nah!! It must have been a long lost relative or something. Now, one could argue that not taking no for an answer is a good thing. I'm sure this quality of theirs will come handy one day. After all, it's one of the keys to success. Yes, and . . . knowing when to take no for an answer is a sign of wisdom and respect. Perseverance and stubbornness are two sides of the same coin. One is good, th...
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Get over it: 9 steps to overcoming self-doubt

Even the most confident and self-assured people are plagued by self-doubt at times. You may say . . ."I'm not the most confident and self-assured person to begin with." Well, neither am I and neither are most of us, so you're not alone. Doubt comes up every time we're ready to make a decision, make a change, or head to a new direction. At times, I think of self-doubt as a friend. Someone who's there to test my strength and perseverance. This is what I've learned over the years: Self-doubt, like most of what holds us back in life, cannot be defeated by conventional means. You pick a fight wi...
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Expectations

Powerful word, isn't it? Expectations can be good. They point the way, help us make choices, pursue our dreams and know when we arrive at our destination. They serve as markers and define us. The other side of the coin presents a different picture. What happens when our expectations don't materialize? People let us down, life goes in directions other than we had hoped for, projects linger and fizzle and time lines stretch. It may be that our expectations are unrealistic or the timing is not right. Life throws a curve ball and we lose our orientation. Disappointment sinks in and our e...
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Cultivating self-respect!

During my Daily Habits teleclass today, I had the chance to observe, once again, wisdom in action. People shared the challenges and dilemmas they face when it comes to self-care. They jumped in to support one another and in doing so, they proved how wise, knowing, willing and generous they are  . . . when it comes to others. It's not that we don't know how to exercise self-care, we just don't do it. Somewhere along the way, pushing our needs in the back burner, became a life forming habit! It got me thinking about respect. What does it mean to have respect for someone or something? What ...
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Getting In My Own Way

I began this morning by inviting people to keep it simple for today and choose their disruptions wisely. For the most part, I tried to do what I preached. A meeting I had in the morning, finished earlier than I expected, my to-do-list was moving along nicely and by early afternoon, I found myself with time in my hands. I should have known there was trouble around the corner. I decided that I wanted to change some things on my website and took to task. The website designer I have worked with for almost ten years, is wonderful and very supportive. Over the years she has given me much more ...
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Missing Opportunities?

When do we know we're playing hide-and-go-seek with success? Can it be when we don't take the time (because who has time for trivia anyway?) to spell it out for ourselves? Do we know what a successful business . . . a successful life look like? Or, is it, other people's beliefs of what success is, that define us? What is success? How does it look, smell, feel? How is success measured in your work, in your life, or is it possible to keep the two separate? "Good questions but guess what . . .  I got to go now." "Got to surf the net, check on what other people are saying on Twitter,...
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